Why can a follow-up question feel so frustrating?
A question may land as criticism, disbelief, or another demand when you already feel overloaded. That interpretation is worth exploring; it is not proof that the other person intended harm or that a particular diagnosis explains the reaction.
Our DBT article walks through STOP: pause, step back, notice what is happening, and choose a response. One starting phrase is to ask which part needs clarification. A clinician can help you adapt the skill to your circumstances.